Planning For Self-Love Success

Becca Armour shares her ideas to help set you up for self-love success in 2023.

What if we shifted our perspective from celebrating the love we receive from others to prioritizing the love we receive from ourselves?

It is embedded in our culture to reset at the beginning of each year in the form of New Year resolutions, so at the same time we should pave the way to recognise, reassess and set ourselves up for self-love success.

Self-love is a term we hear often, but often we struggle to practice it, or better yet we don’t prioritise it. It’s the paradox of knowing, but not doing.

In 2023 it’s time to let go of thieving ourselves of joy because we compare ourselves to others and worry about the opinions of those that don’t matter. There are many things we can’t control, but what we can control is how we speak to ourselves, how we see ourselves and how we love ourselves.

While self-love practices aren’t a one sized fit all, here a few ideas to help set you up for self-love success in 2023.

Let go of limitations.

Let go of the notion that you need someone, or some reason to do something incredible. Get comfortable romanticising your own life.

To better rephrase, “you can buy yourself flowers, and write your own name in the sand” Queen Miley Cyrus.

Who said you can’t get dressed up, take yourself out and enjoy a delicious meal by yourself? Society has made us feel that being seen alone, must mean we are alone. When in truth, it represents our ability to connect and bring ourselves happiness. We cannot continue to miss doing the things that bring us joy, because we are waiting on a reply or someone else to do it with. Learn to fill your own cup up, rather than relying on others to do so.

More often than not, we are comfortable spending time with ourselves in situations that are comfortable to us. But what if we were willing to step out from those limitations?

Check in with your values.

Our values represent our moral identity. They are our individual beliefs that motivate us to act one way or another. It was once said that we are a representation of our five closest friends. So, what does that say about our values?

Take the time to note your own values and the values you would look for in a friend or significant other. If something does not quite add up, recognise it, and reassess it. 2023 is the year we say goodbye to toxicity. Not everyone will take responsibility for the energy they put out into the world, and sometimes we need to recognise that to protect our own energy.

Say no.

Socialising while it can be applauded and loved, can also be detrimental when it’s at the expense of our own personal wellbeing. It’s important to listen to ourselves when we need time alone. FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out- is real, and something many people fall victim to. The end result, burn out, stress and the feeling of overwhelm.

Take a you day to get your life in check. Call it a self-admin day with self-love at the top of the agenda. This could be as simple having a Sunday reset every month where you practice spending time and romanticising your own life. Take yourself out to breakfast, go for a solo adventure, grocery shop and bake something for yourself that you’d make for someone else on a special occasion. Need inspiration…celebrate yourself with these delicious Valentine Bounty Bites below! Remember you are worthy of celebrating.

Say Yes.

Recognising when you need social interaction and stimulus to benefit yourself is also equally as important. It truly is a balancing act. The art of it all is recognising when we are beginning to sway or find comfort in one more than the other.

Often, we can begin feeling so overwhelmed that we don’t make time for the people, or our hobbies and activities that bring us joy. It is important to prioritise our connections with others, and reconnect to experiences that bring us happiness. Even with a long to do list, a brisk walk or meaningful time spent with a friend can help us become more productive, re align our focus, give us clarity and improve our overall brain health and functioning.

Your happy thing.

Learn to discover your happy thing, and prioritize practicing it. Whether it be a beach walk, reading, boxing, painting or baking. Prioritise it. We are the person that we spend the most time with, and we should celebrate that. Be kind to yourself in a world full of harsh critics, and never lose sight of you. Your happiness is the key to longevity when it comes to self-love. It is worth noting that there are many people that may bring us happiness, but rather than who find your what.

Take Away.

Most importantly, be patient. Practicing self-love does not happen overnight, but recognise how far you have come and over time it will become embedded within your heart.

Check back in with yourself to recognise and reassess.

We are capable of amazing things, sometimes we just need a reminder to see our own worth.